Everyone’s Story welcomes a good friend and gripping author (I’ve endorsed her soon-to-be release of Suburban Dangers, June 1st). What I like about Megan’s stories are that they mirror true life and gets you thinking. This week Megan speaks up on why women are naturally attracted to the bad boy and what can be done to prevent life-long consequences. Check out Megan’s BookGiveaway of Captives and the blurb of Suburban Dangers. Megan and I look forward to hearing from you!
Megan is offering 1 randomly chosen commenter a choice of 1 print or ebook of Captives. The winner will be announced here on Friday, April 28th between 6-7 PM EST.
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Blurb of Captives:
Winner of the 2016 Blue Ridge Mountain Director’s Choice Award
Finalist in the 2016 Selah Awards for Women’s Contemporary Fiction
When seventeen-year-old Amy Timothy disappears from a rural Virginia truck stop, world-renowned cellist Blaise Timothy puts her life on hold to join the search for her sister. While conducting her own investigation into Amy’s disappearance, Blaise seeks solace in addictive and destructive relationships.
Three years later, the search for Amy becomes a homicide investigation and catches the attention of national media and sex trafficking activists. Less than a mile from where Amy’s body is recovered, Andrew Victor attempts to manage a failing career in art, an addiction to pornography, and a family secret that links him to the murder investigation. In Washington, DC, Asha Edgewater knows first-hand the horrors of sex slavery and lends support to the Timothy family even as she comes to terms with her own past. As all three lives intersect in their search for redemption and healing, they find it is only possible through God’s saving grace.
Much like Francine Rivers unveils the painful reality of prostitution in her historical novel Redeeming Love, Captives takes a look at the modern enslavement of sex trafficking, its links to pornography, and the possibility of real and lasting freedom.
Confessions of a Bad Boy Chaser by Megan Whitson Lee
Several of my novels include thematic material and storylines about women trapped in bad relationships.
As a young woman, I was consistently attracted to the wrong sort. You know the one I’m talking about. The dark, tattooed, leather-jacket-wearing rock star that your mother warned you about. The “bad boy.”
According to a recent number of articles I’ve read, this is not an unusual phenomenon. Women are by nature attracted to the man of mystery, the rebel, the macho guy with the rough edges. The caring, sensitive, sweet-natured man doesn’t stimulate the emotions like the Machiavellian brooder. Prince Charming is predictable. Dracula is not. Apparently, there is a physiological response that affects adrenaline and serotonin levels when women interact with bad boys. Never knowing if he will love or reject her tickles an area of the brain which spurs on the interest. As the attraction deepens, women delude themselves into thinking these men will be more exciting partners, better husbands, and sincere dads. So it’s nature, right? Science. Kind of like tectonic plates shifting.
This is how the devil works. He often deceives us by telling us we need this. This man is the one who will make you happy and fulfill all your dreams. But you don’t want the godly, righteous one because you’ll be bored and won’t live the life you’ve envisioned for yourself. I believed that voice for a long time.
I had an image of the man I wanted: an amalgamation of Heathcliff, Hamlet, and Lord Byron—some of the darkest, most troubled, most tortured souls in literature. This quest sent me abroad to England, looking for this elusive man, and finally meeting one who fit the bill. Actually, Don Juan would have been a more accurate description. I thought this guy was it. He was everything I’d ever wanted—he was exotic, exciting, charming, good-looking, an entrepreneur … and an atheist. He told me outright that he had no interest in getting married for a long time. He only saw me when it was convenient for him and regularly flaunted other women in my face. In my twisted mind, I saw the fact that he had all these other women at his disposal as confirmation that he was worth fighting for. I was, after all, privileged to be one of these women. It took nearly three years, three flights back and forth to England, and a complete mental and spiritual breakdown to finally rid myself of that stronghold. All because I sought the darkness in a desperate attempt to secure acceptance and love. But then, God showed me that kind of love isn’t really love.
Scripture tells us, “This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil.” –John 3:19. The scientific studies are dead right. By nature, we crave that which is bad for us and seek evil because at our core, we are wicked and our desires are sinful. Humans do not naturally crave what is good and righteous because our hearts are so easily deceived.
Thankfully, we can be freed from these shackles. “He himself bore our sins in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed.”—1 Peter 2:24. God never intended for women to live under the bondage and emotional torture of the bad boy. Selfish and narcissistic personalities are the opposite of what the Lord wants for his daughters.
The woman at the well had most likely seen her fair share of bad boys. She’d had five husbands and currently cohabitated with a man. Any other man would have spit at her, called her names, or turned away in disgust, but Jesus didn’t. He respectfully conversed with her, treated her with dignity, and showed her mercy. Having been treated like a dog by wicked men, what a soothing balm Jesus must have been for her. His kindness and His brand of love must have been like a drink from the purest, cleanest water, quenching her soul. The only love that satisfies.
No matter how attractive, seductive, and exciting, the path of the bad boy leads to destruction. Perhaps it’s true that neurological impulses draw women (and men) toward the dark and mysterious, but in the end, bending to what comes naturally without listening to God leads to heartache and misery. We needn’t be a slave to nature. Jesus came to set the captives free.
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Blurb for Suburban Dangers:
Sixteen-year-old Kaki Jones lives a normal life in suburbia. She makes good grades, runs on the cross-country team, and helps care for her younger brothers and sisters. Her younger brother, Brandon is the troubled child. He parties, fights at school, keeps photos of girls on his cell phone, and runs into trouble with the police.
But Kaki harbors a secret. After meeting cool girl Sydney Diaz, Kaki’s life is forever changed. Now, she’s a sophomore by day and a commodity sold at the hands of gang members by night. Living a double life and controlled by threats of violence against her family, Kaki sees no chance of escape.
When parents look the other way and strangers offer more affection than a father, God’s deliverance is the only answer.
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Megan Whitson Lee is a wife, a mom of two greyhounds, and an editor for Pelican Book Group. Her novel, Captives, won the 2016 Director’s Choice Award and was a finalist for a Selah Award in the women’s contemporary fiction category at Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writers Conference.
Megan writes inspirational women’s contemporary and historical fiction that deals with loss and love, involving characters standing at the crossroads of major life decisions, crises of faith, and moral dilemmas. Her novels depict characters confronted with real-life problems, address universal spiritual and moral struggles, and offer messages of hope, recovery, and redemption through God’s saving grace.
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